She considers a field before she buys or accepts it [expanding prudently and not courting neglect of her present duties by assuming other duties]; with her savings [of time and strength] she plants fruitful vines in her vineyard. Prov.31:16
The working mother has often been a subject of intense scrutiny. Some have been made to feel they are not doing a proper job of their first priority their family if they have a job outside of the home. Others who choose to stay at home with their families have also had a rough time of being belittled as to “you are only a mother”! Statements!
Here we see God’s balance which hopefully will set both sides free to be all that they can possibly be. God does not take sides! He will be for you whether you stay at home and look after the family or whether you go out to work for a boss or open your own business. God shows His blessing on industrious woman but gives her some rules for measuring her success. Success and fulfilling your call and destiny are the same things in God’s eyes.
God’s measure of success and that of the world are two different things and we as Women of Destiny must not confuse the two. Prov. 16:16 says: “How much better to get wisdom than gold! And to get understanding is to be chosen rather than gold.” This I believe is the most important to the Lord. When we have wisdom and understanding we are going to be successful in whatever we do.
We have to look at the reasons we are choosing to work or to stay at home and balance them with the will of God for our lives. A wise woman can be extremely good in business because of the gift of discernment the Lord has placed in women. This must be balanced with the carrying out of the rest of her responsibilities as a wife and a mother. This is sometimes extremely difficult with the pressures that are placed on employees for long hours and deadlines. Women get home exhausted and still have to look after their families.
Only the Lord and His leading and peace can tell you what to do if you are in this place. He is so interested in your wellbeing that He has the strength you need, the wisdom as to how to fit everything in as well as the new job if necessary. He tells us not to be conformed to this world but to be transformed by he renewing of our minds so that we can prove what is the good and perfect will of God.
Don’t beat yourself up if you have to work but look at the effects it is having on yourself and your family and then trust God for the wisdom to know how to balance all the responsibilities of your life. Go and take counsel if it is too much for you. Get the assistance you need in order to be the woman who can balance work and family and still be a fabulous testimony for those watching your life.