She comforts, encourages, and does him only good as long as there is life within her.
This is such an interesting mission statement for a woman to study. Within each one of us God has placed the nurturing spirit and our hearts long to see our families prosper and be blessed, healthy and happy. The key to seeing this become a reality lies within us and what we do and say.
It comes so naturally when we think of our children and we will defend our children and fight for them and sacrifice for them so easily. But the Lord is talking about our husbands here because He knows our tendency can be to ignore these things when it comes to our husbands as we put the children first and focus totally on them and our husbands get lost in the clamor of the needs of our children. One of the lines struck me from the movie ” My Big, Fat Greek Wedding 2″ was “Remember you were first a girlfriend and a wife before you were a mother”
As much as we need to focus on our children as they are growing up and the many needs that they have, we must never lose focus on the reason we are a mother, and that is beacause we have a husband first. How we treat our husbands will have a very great impact on our children and will contribute to their success as adults later on. The Word gives us the keys to a godly life, marriage and family.
Three things are essential: comfort, encouragement and doing him good! Be his safe place to share his heart, his dreams and his frustrations with. Just listen, don’t try to point out the pitfalls or the negatives you can imagine, be there for him to bounce his ideas off. We as women can kill a mans dreams quicker than anything. We want him to be our strength, our provider, our protection and then we proceed to criticize his ideas, tell him how stupid his dreams are and throw him back to the ground by pointing out all the things he has not done that we want him to. We will never change him to be what we want him to be, even if we do we will not like the result. We fell in love with him just like he was, mainly because he was so different to us and now we want him to be just like us? Crazy but true!
If there are things that drive you crazy talk to the Lord about them don’t try and nag him into changing. God made him and knows how to convince him much better and more effectively than we do so let’s allow the Lord to fashion our husbands after His image not ours. We need all those differences to fill up our weaknesses anyway.
Doing him good all our lives is spelled out in the next verses.
She seeks out wool and flax and works with willing hands [to develop it]. She is like the merchant ships loaded with foodstuffs; she brings her household’s food from a far [country].
A godly woman is a very creative, effective bountiful bless or of her family. Nothing fazes her as she looks to the needs of her household. She knows where to get the best she can and seeks ways to bring things into the family from different places. Whatever she has she knows how to work with it making it the best for her family and she willingly multiplies and develops whatever has been provided.
She rises while it is yet night and gets [spiritual] food for her household and assigns her maids their tasks.
She is a woman who is organized and knows what is needed from everyone and prepares ahead so that confusion and lack of direction or clarity is not part of her families experience. She has vision and knows what needs to be done. She is a good planner and organizer of the things that need to be done for the members of her family.
The other thing she does is seek the Lord in prayer for her family so that she has a word in season for every member of her family. She speaks with loving wisdom and truth having committed the new day and all it holds to the Lord for each of her family members. She rises while it is yet night, through the hard times she does not collapse but continues to seek the Lord for His life and answers for her family and what they are facing. She intercedes for them even before they have encountered the day. She is also ahead of the issues they are going to face because she has prayed before the day has even begun. God has given us the ability to discern enemy plans ahead of time and to pray before the situation arrives and gets overwhelming. Even in the rough times a godly woman will fight first on her knees in prayer before she tackles the day and the problems that occur.
– Lindsey Lefebure