Throughout the Bible we see that God has always had a plan and a purpose for His people. Everything that God does is with purpose and reason, His ways are not random or erratic, and He does not do things by chance but rather by a divine plan. From the very beginning of creation all the way through to this very moment and continuing until the very end of time, God has had a unique plan and purpose for our lives. He is a God of destiny.
The more we grow in relationship with our heavenly Father, and the more He reveals Himself and His secrets to us, we begin to see that the plans He has for our lives are far greater and more amazing than we could ever dream for ourselves.
I am often reminded of the scripture in 1 Corinthians 2:9-10, ‘No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined what God has prepared for those who love Him. 10 But it was to us that God revealed these things by His Spirit. For His Spirit searches out everything and shows us God’s deep secrets.”
This scripture is so encouraging and it’s a promise we, as women of destiny, need to stand on. You need to know that God has destined you for great things, things that you probably cannot begin to imagine or even think would ever be possible, but it’s true and its available for you to walk in.
You may or may not know what the fullness of God’s plan and purpose for your life is. If you do know, that’s awesome, continue to pursue it and walk in it, but if you don’t know the fullness of His destiny for your life, that’s ok, as you continue to surrender your will to Him, trust in Him and wait on Him, He will reveal your destiny to you.
The ‘things’ referred to in the scripture are the things that eye has not seen, the things that God has revealed to you by His Spirit and because they are revealed by the Spirit it is often something that is not understood or received well by others.
Sometimes what happens is we get a glimpse of God’s vision and destiny for our lives and its so big and so exciting that we prematurely share it with others, but because they don’t have the same spiritual understanding they don’t receive it well and then it is seen as ‘foolish’ in their eyes and they tend to speak negatively over it. This is when discouragement sets in and we begin to doubt whether it really was God’s vision or maybe just our own ‘silly self’ and we question if we even heard Him correctly. Our rational mind takes over and it causes us to put it aside and not pursue it at all.
There are so many gifted and anointed women in the Body of Christ that are not walking in their God given purpose and calling because someone along their path squashed their dream or vision and they let it go.
If this has happened to you, I encourage you to pick it up again. Do not allow what people cannot see to influence what you can see.
The things you can see are the things that God has revealed to you by His Spirit. They are His secrets for your destiny and no one can take that from you.
What are the things God has revealed to you for your destiny? What deep secrets has He shared with you? What is the vision He has given you for your family, your marriage, your children, your job or your ministry? Are you walking in it? If not, I encourage you to go back to God and allow Him to minister to you and restore your dreams.
Get back in line with His will and become expectant, for the plans He has for you are overwhelmingly good because He loves you deeply and unconditionally, and His desire is to see you walk in the fullness of what He has prepared for you.
We serve an almighty God, a God of destiny and because of Him you are a women of destiny, destined for great things.
-Leigh de Freitas
In a world where everyone is in a rush to get somewhere and do something it becomes a bit of a challenge to make time for God. We often get so caught up in what everyone else around us wants that we forget what He needs.
Yeah I am guilty of this. I have even gotten caught up in my own calling and running with God’s plan that I forgotten who I am actually doing this for. I think its a balance that takes a long time to get right but its a very necessary balance. You have to find that perfect balance between keeping proactive and having time for God.
But sometimes we don’t even have control of how busy things get. I don’t know about you, but I have noticed that everything seems to happen all around the same time. Its quiet for a while but then boom! everything just comes and happens around you all at once and that can be a bit overwhelming.
So in those crazy hectic moments how do you make time for God?
Well I have come to the understanding that God wants to be a part of your everyday life, so make Him part of your everyday life. That way you don’t necessarily miss time with Him, because He will be in every minute of your day. Now I don’t by any means have this down, sometimes I do forget to bring God into my everyday mundane life, but its a process.
Now this does not mean you must now neglect having alone time with God. Your quiet time with Him is so important and you should definitely make space for that time with God.
It’s in those moments alone wit God that we actually get that closeness that we desire from God but when we are to busy to get close to God then our heart and message for our calling get lost in the actual building of our ministry.
Sometimes it does get hectic and we battle to wake early in the mornings or stay up a little later to spend that alone time with God, it is a real challenge and it is a challenge for everyone. I often find myself in these weird phases where I am just constantly reading the word and then for a while I don’t even look at my Bible. But for reals though, am I bad for being like that?
I ask myself this question all the time. I still don’t have a real answer but what I have come to is that its not a bad thing, nor is it a good thing. It’s just something that happens.See the only way you’re going to know and see the character of God is by knowing His word. If we continuously pray for things that aren’t happening when our Bibles are closed, then really what are we doing?
If we don’t know who we are praying to then how can we know if He is answering us or not? How can we know what He is saying when we don’t know who He is and how He works? So making time for the One who is actually providing for you, the One you are praying to and the One you’re actually living for makes sense, in fact it is necessary.
As a matter of fact He spends all His time looking out for us, so why do we make such a big deal about spending a fraction of our day talking to Him? In a world where everything is constantly crazy, slow it down and spend some quality time with your Father.
God has been putting this on my heart and I think its something we all need to hear, know and understand.
Relationships. This is not the light and fuzzy-feeling side of this topic though. I think it’s an important topic to discuss for anyone looking for someone, in a relationship, or maybe even for a married woman.
So firstly I just want to say, relationships are good and are meant to be enjoyed. Building a life with someone is good. You know in the beginning God said “it is not good for man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18) so right from the beginning we see that God designed us to be in fellowship with people. Now that doesn’t mean that our relationship with God takes a backseat to the person we want to build a life with and that sometimes happen because we get so caught up in our partner. That’s one of the reasons it’s good to have a partner that shares you faith, so that you are both focused on God and when one of you stray away from that, the other is there to pull you back.
God is a jealous God and don’t think for one second He is going to let some man take His place in our lives. But at the same time, He totally gets that we need other people and that closeness and intimacy with other human beings. So that is why He made man and woman to be together and want to be with one another.
With all of that said, I also need to clarify the reality and seriousness of relationships. A lot of things happen in the spiritual realm when we do things in the natural and well we have to be really careful what we do and what we allow ourselves to think and feel.
Something I have settled in myself and worked through with God is that I will wait. I will wait however long it takes for the right person. The person God says would be someone I could really build with. Now I know that is a super spiritual type of thing, and for a long time it was actually a fear driven decision. I used to be scared of what could happen because of everything I went through and saw in my own parents relationship.
Waiting is difficult and I by no means have it down perfectly. I actually can’t even imagine how many times God has sat with His face in His hands because of all the times I’ve tried to do this on my own instead of waiting on Him. But I thank God for His grace and guidance because He always pulls me out or reveals that its not right before things go to far. He always protects us, and I think sometimes we question why its taking so long, but we sure rest assured that He knows what He is doing.
Something you should really ask yourself when looking at a human you might be interested in is if you could spend the rest of your life with him, and if you could really actually build a life with him. Now ladies, you need to be real here. You can lie to yourself for a while if you want, but eventually its going to come out that you can’t actually do this, so even though its hard you have to be real with yourself and ask if you could really actually take on your life and calling with him. For as long as I can remember, God always posed that question to me whenever I noticed someone and its actually sort of opened my eyes to how we should be looking at this whole dating concept.
If you can’t see a future with this person then you shouldn’t be in a relationship with them. It’s as simple as that, but then we complain to God and be like “But he is soooo nice. God whyyyyy? Why can’t he be the one?”. Well I don’t know about you, but I have those moments with God.
Something we should also know is that there is no such thing as “the one”. I believe that there are multiple people on this earth who you would be compatible with, because well if there is just one and that one gets hit by a bus then what? My one is roadkill so I must be alone for the rest of my life? I don’t think so somehow. God has made multiple people who would be compatible with me, and if something happens to one, then He will bring the other one. He provides for us.
So when you get into something with someone, you should go into the relationship with the attitude of mend it, don’t end it. Just like when you go into a marriage with the attitude of ‘divorce is not an option’, you should go into a relationship with the idea of ‘breaking up’ is not an option. If you get into something, you should be willing to see it through.
When you commit to someone, I feel you should really commit. There is a reason we say “for better or worse” in vows. Now don’t get me wrong, if you are in a toxic relationship, then yes get the heck out of there. But if you just want to leave because he doesn’t buy you flowers, then I don’t know. Maybe then you should be looking at if you are ready for a relationship. We should actually be making ourselves ready for the human we will one day spend the rest of our lives with. Our prayer should be that God would make us into the woman we need to be that we may be who our partner needs. Instead of looking around the whole time for the right guy, maybe we should be a little more focused on making ourselves into the woman that God created us to be.
You will be amazed at the things that can happen when we submit to God and His timing.
As women we naturally desire to be desired. There is something inside of us that loves to be loved and lavished on. In the courting stages of a relationship the women desires to be pursued by her man. In a marriage when two hearts are joined as one, the women desires intimacy with her husband, she wants to be appreciated, to feel secure and protected and to be cherished.
God’s desire is to lavish on His people. He is an intimate and a personal God and He desires to have an intimate relationship with us. Sadly, there are many women who either have never experienced the true heart of the Father or those that have a false impression about Father God, perhaps based on their past experiences with men, either from their marriage or their childhood. This harsh concept of God is damaging to their souls.
So what does the true heart of the Father look like? Jesus told Thomas that anyone who has seen Him has seen the Father (John 14:5-9). In other words, it is in the Fathers heart to raise the dead, heal the sick, cleanse the lepers, feed the masses, provide finance, befriend sinners, extend forgiveness, teach the Word and do various other miracles.
God the Father does not love you any less than Jesus loves you. In fact, He loves you just as He love Jesus (John 17:23). It is a powerful truth that will propel you into a greater intimacy with God.
Without intimacy with God, you cannot fulfil His perfect Plan for your life, no matter what you are called to do. Intimacy with God strengthens your spirit, it refreshes your weary soul, it protects you from temptation and it builds trust. Intimacy with God anchors your emotions. It is fundamental and vital for us as women to be intimate with God the Father.
God wants to develop an intimate relationship with you that mirrors the intimate relationship He had with Jesus while He walked the earth. Jesus did only what He saw His Father do. Undeniably, Jesus and the Father were in such a close relationship that Jesus would not take a single step without Him. This is a sign of the intimacy Jesus had with His Father.
When we received Jesus as our Lord and Saviour, we are not only saved from the kingdom of darkness but we are also saved into close fellowship with God. Jesus prayed ‘this is eternal life, that they many know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom You have sent’ (John 17:3)
It is so important that you know God, not just know Him as a head knowledge, or know Him by other people’s understanding of God, but that you know Him personally, that you understand God’s heart and His love for you, knowing in your heart that God loves you for who you are and not for what you do.
God is eagerly waiting for you. He wants to lavish on you and be intimate with you. He wants you to experience His true love.
I encourage you to make a quality decision to seek Him, be like Mary sitting at the feet of Jesus, expecting, desiring, waiting, and receiving. Set out to discover who He really is, what His personality is like and His ways of leading and guiding. David prayed, ‘Show me your ways, O Lord, teach me Your paths. Lead me in Your truth and teach me, for You are the God of my salvation, on You I will wait.’ (Psalm 25:4-5). Let this scripture be the cry of your heart.
I am reminded of the scripture in Matthew 6:33, ‘First seek the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you’. The ‘seeking’ takes place when we are intimately in relationship with the Father. When we desire intimacy with the Father and we truly seek Him and His heart, ‘all these things’ are added unto us. As a women, what are the ‘things’ you are trusting God for?, what are your hearts desires?, your needs?, your requests?.
When you connect with God’s heart with pure motives, He will grant you everything your heart desires (Psalm 37:4), because then your hearts desires will be in line with His, and it will be greater than you could have ever asked for yourself.
-Leigh De Freitas
Who is a Woman of Destiny? What does she do? Where do you find her? Who can become a Woman of Destiny? These are often questions that arise in people’s minds.
Is she someone who has written a book or appears on TV or has a lot followers on Twitter? Are her videos on YouTube and do her likes on Facebook have to be over 500 000? Well this may all be true or some of it or even none of it. It is not about who knows her on earth but rather who knows her in heaven!
A Woman of Destiny is first of all known by Father God in heaven, her name is forever linked with Jesus Christ her Lord and Saviour and Holy Spirit speaks to her and about her as His daughter and friend. She is someone who believes in eternity and is surrendered to the will of God for her life. She wants what Abba Daddy wants, she obediently follows the leading of Holy Spirit and she joyfully sets about the day to do whatever her hand finds to do with all her heart, soul and strength.
Each and every one of us ladies has the potential and power to become a Woman of Destiny.
God has plans for our lives. (Jer 29:11) tells us that. (Ps 139:16) declares that God was busy with each potential day of our lives, writing them in His book even before we were completely formed in our mother’s womb. You are a Woman of Destiny in the eyes and heart of the Lord all you have to do is begin to see yourself the way the Lord does and then expect to be lead by Holy Spirit each day so that He can help you walk in the paths of righteousness and it will be all for His Name sake!
Isn’t that a most profound thought? Because God has a plan and a path and a destiny in His heart for each one of us no matter who we are, where we grew up and what we are doing now. Today you can step into and onto that path of destiny and do exactly what the Lord has planned for you right where you are! He has seen every moment of your life. He knows what you have had to go through and all the ups and downs you have faced. He knows what your situation is like right now and He wants to show you how you are and can be His Women of Destiny today and each day of the rest of your life.
The Bible tells us that the steps of a good person are ordered by the Lord (Ps37:23) and He is the Master of turning all things for good for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. (Rom. 8:28) To be “good and called” means to have surrendered our lives to Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour because we cannot do it on our own we need the salvation He purchased for us on the cross and the power of the resurrection in our lives. So that is the beginning and foundation of being a Woman of Destiny.
After that is the seeing each day and each situation that comes our way as a potential in God for His purposes to be worked out in and through us. As a wife, a mother, a daughter, in our work place and at home. Wherever we are and whatever we are doing, there is a potential to be used effectively by the Lord for His plans of the path of destiny for our lives. Destiny is not a place or an achievement it is a process and a path of daily surrender to Him, listening carefully for His voice and direction and allowing Him to flow in and through you wherever you are. He is the one who knows where He wants you to end up and what He has planned for you to be doing. He is the one who opens doors and promises that those who are faithful in little will be given more. (Luke 19:17)
We must not worry about what we are supposed to become, like when we were little people, we used to be asked what we wanted to be when we grew up! It is well and good but when we have become that, a teacher, a nurse, a brain surgeon, a mother, an advocate or a receptionist, then what? Well that is the exciting thing because again Destiny is not a place it is a journey and day by day we can walk in it. Every day we are presented with choices and opportunities so let’s see ourselves as filled with God and therefore we are Women of Destiny and let’s make each day count for good and for God.
Enjoy who God has created you to be today and what He has given you today to do and walk with Him, watching Him unfold amazing times in and through your life. Be blessed because you are a blessing.